Having a child with a good personality, polite, understanding, and caring is every parent's dream. In order for children to become good persons, parental guidance is needed in the early days of their lives.
One of the oldest and best universities in the world, Harvard University issued a guide to educate children to become good personalities. Guidelines are based on the results of human development studies.
The following 7 guidelines for educating children to become good personal from Harvard University.
1. Spend time together
Spend time with children regularly. At the same time, try to develop meaningful conversations with children.
Spending time together regularly will make a child learn to care and love. Show affection, sincere attention, encouraging activities, and praise the achievements or achievements of children.
Also ask open-ended questions to create meaningful conversations. This activity is expected to make children imitate and apply it when with other people.
2. Be a role model and mentor
Children will respect what they are told, if they see you doing the same thing. So, pay close attention to the way you practice values such as honesty and humility, so that children follow it.
Tell children when you make a mistake and talk to them about how to fix it. Tell them that it's important to tell people they trust when they need advice or help and encourage them to always pay attention to others.
3. Be kind and caring
Tell your child that being caring and kind is a top priority, not only at home, but also at school and the surrounding environment. Ask the teacher for help at school, to check whether the child has behaved in this way.
Direct children to solve problems by thinking about others who will be affected by their actions.
4. Give responsibility
Give children responsibilities such as helping with homework. This will be an opportunity for them to care about their daily routines. Also, say thank you and appreciation to the child.
Continue to give motivation to make gratitude to others as part of everyday life.
5. Open the child's understanding
Children usually care about family and smaller friendships. To broaden their understanding, try to talk about other people and the challenges faced by people.
Discuss the problem and give them ideas, such as ways you can help and fix the problem. Invite them to listen to other people, especially people who might be different from them, to foster understanding and affection.
6. Take action
When faced with a problem, help the child by talking and taking action. Encourage them to work with others to solve problems.
Try translating children's interests to make them interested in helping. For example, if children like animals, they can volunteer at a shelter.
7. Resolve conflicts
Encourage children to identify their feelings and help them to control and manage them, such as taking deep breaths to be able to think calmly. Also help them to resolve conflicts by still understanding their feelings and those of others.
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